As I See It...

The Morning After...Pill

2010-02-25T20:45:00.004-05:00

No. This isn't about "Plan B". Or any other silly method to kill what happens when you decide to do the grown up. This isn't about drinking coke, or going number 1 to wash away all the juices. This is about the other pill you have to take. The pill that makes your mind wander all day, the one where you question your decision to invite someone in to your most "private" place. This is the pill you take when you realize that you gave of yourself with the expectation of getting something...other than sex.

I have really close male friends who seem to believe that there are women who can operate with the same willy-nillyness of men with their sex. They seem to think that there are women who can really just have sex with no other expectation. WRONG ANSWER (with the exception of porn stars, of course). I'm no expert, but even if a woman tells you she doesn't care, SHE DOES! Women are the greatest decepticons, LoL! That's not really funny, but it is oh so true.

So, you play the sideline and wait until he wants your warm bed to stay in. Even after falling asleep on tear stained pillows questioning who you've become for companionship, you don't have the nerve to tell him you want more. You NEED more. You were designed for more. You deal. You settle. You swallow...The Pill.

Embracing what you've always known to be true...

2010-02-25T12:02:00.003-05:00

The truth of the matter is: nobody wants to hear the truth. Keep it real/funky/ one hunnit/G are only ways for people to be brazen at the expense of someone else's feelings. I'd go so far as to say 98% of the time, people already KNOW the truth. Ignorance is bliss though, right?

I've walked alongside what I've known to be truth for many years about a lot of different things: my weight-lets be honest, I'm not thick-, my friendships-lets be honest-they don't care about me, if they did I wouldn't question who I am when I'm around them, my fauxlationship-lets be honest, we are NOT in a relationship and we never have been. Its so much easier to live in the bubble we create for ourselves to ease our questioning minds, to comfort us. But what happens when the truth bursts our bubble? We are then left to clean up the mess of tear-stained pillows by ourselves. I guess that's only right though because we were the only ones in the bubble to begin with. No one lived that fallacy but us. It hurts knowing you've created a place to keep you safe from hurt, from truth. It hurts even more when you have to embrace what you've always known to be fact. I know I'm not alone. The good thing is, embracing it is the best thing you'll ever do. It forces you to do better for yourself...

How Do I Love Thee? Let me count the ways...

2010-02-25T11:35:00.009-05:00

No explanation needed...the loves of my life

Waiting...

2009-09-28T22:40:00.003-04:00

I just read Rivaflowz blog about women and how we wait, and wait, and wait. It touched my heart because I've waited-for validation, for affirmation, for love, for maybes. As I type this and reminisce on my past dealings, every man has made me wait. And every time, I fell asleep with my phone in one hand, holding on to the hope that it will jar me from my cry-induced sleep when he finally calls. But he doesn't call. Not that night anyway. Maybe the next day, and it is almost as if my time and tears mean nothing to him. They can't. Which is why, whatever he was doing, was more important than yme, sitting by myself, waiting...

Her heart junps with every buzz/beep of her phone. Gets excited every time the door swings. Her friends are texting "How's it going?" She can't answer, because it's not. She falls asleep with tear stained pillows on her birthday. I am her. She used to be me. Time and words, once spent, are two things that you can't get back.

I, too, have waited...

Titles and such, SMH

2009-08-09T19:09:00.001-04:00

In a Relationship? Dating Exclusively?? Single??? It’s Complicated????

Let me begin with a disclaimer: I am not in any of the above situations, so therefore I am probably NOT qualified to define the above categories. But I’ve had enough of the dating “titles”! Either you’re in or you’re not. There is no such thing as kinda in a relationship. So the following are my definitions to the terms with examples and anecdotes =)

Single!!

This one is simple and clear cut-me, myself and I or you, yourself and…err, yourself. You can however be dating-not to be confused with dating exclusively-and single. If you are single you are not committed to anyone but yourself. Single folks can enjoy the company of the opposite sex-or same sex if that’s what your into-and not have to concern themselves with all the superfluous nonsense. “Whereyouatewhereyou goingwhereyoubeenwhoyouwithwhatyoudoingwhyyoudoingthat?” They just simply don’t have to care. And furthermore would prefer not to be hassled with those questions either. Because once you start asking/answering those questions you have moved on from single territory and into the danger zone.

Dating Exclusively??

I have to laugh when I think about this one because what exactly is the difference between dating and dating exclusively?? The way I see it, when you are dating, you date a whole bunch of different folks. They know you date many people and they themselves also date others. There may or may not be sex involved, depending on who you ask. Dating exclusively provides all the comforts of being in a relationship, with the ease of being able to walk away if it gets scary. I think dating exclusively implies less EXPECTATION than being in a relationship.

In a Relationship??

Oh boy, this is a good one. Sometimes, both parties don't agree on their actual status and I find more women saying they are in a relationship and the men saying they are dating? What's that about anyway?? I digress. Just the other day I was tweeting with someone about the importance about titles and I remember saying this- "Without a label you can't truly fulfill your purpose. And that's in anything. Even at your job you have a title...But that's what the label is for: to create a commitment to fulfilling the role of said title!" And there you have it, Folks! Being in a relationship is about knowing your purpose, creating expectations, and having a commitment to fulfilling the role of being a girl/boy friend. The lines often get blurred when you start doing relationship-esque things (i.e. sex, paying bills, living together etc) when you are single or dating. You have then created an environment where there are no expectations or commitment. If you can get all of these things outside of being in a relationship, what is the point of being in one?? I'm just saying...

40 things Every Woman Must Know About Men, Love, Sex and Relationships (article) by Gillis Triplett

2009-08-09T18:19:00.004-04:00

While this contains some very strong language (dishonarable, virtuous etc) I think many of the points are valid. It was written by a man and comparing this to Steve Harvey's "Act like a Lady, Think Like A Man, you find that there are some similar themes. Because this is MY blog, I'm free to say that I concur with most of these points. Does it hurt to stare truth in the face, ABSOLUTELY. But facing facts is the easiest way to grow. No sense in sugarcoating it, now is there?!

40 Things Every Woman Must Know About Men, Love, Sex and Relationships (article) by Gillis Triplett

1. There are two types of males: Dishonorable males and honorable men. Don’t date or marry until you know how to tell the difference between the two! The woman in the mirror will graciously thank you.

2. Honorable men are protectors. They will guard your heart, protect your emotions, defend your honor and stand as champions for your spiritual, mental and physical well-being; choose an honorable man and choose life!

3. You are not a car; if you meet a man who wants to test drive your physical body, emotions and feelings, point him to a car dealership, bid him adieu and don’t look back!

4. This is a true saying: “The soul of a woman is fragile.” Please note: dishonorable males refuse to respect this crucial truth. They will toy with a woman’s emotions without any semblance of concern or compassion. Therefore YOU must guard your heart from these cold-hearted males with all diligence.

5. Good men need to be treated like good men, dishonorable males, need to be let go and left alone!

6. OK ladies; you’ve met this great guy, but he’s got a child or children for which he does not take care of, provide for or see to. Follow these instructions to the letter: urgently send him back to the mother(s) of his child(ren) and don’t look back. Don’t make the same mistake the mother(s) of his child(ren) did!

7. Dishonorable males treat sex as a sport, females as trophies and children they sire as wastepaper. Never allow yourself to become their next score, mantle piece or sperm repository.

8. Women who hold grudges, seek vengeance, cling to bitterness and are unwilling to forgive, unwittingly break their own hearts!

9. Choose the wrong mate and you might as well have laid next to a boa constrictor or grabbed the ears of a raging mad pit bull. A smart woman learns how to choose her mate wisely!

10. Heed the sage advice of some caring brothers and honorable men. If he doesn’t fit - don’t force him, just relax and let him go. Destiny is on your side… TRUE LOVE will find you!

11. Momma’s boys belong with only one type of woman; their moms! Ladies, these mothers and their sons will never cut their grotesque umbilical cord. Therefore, for your sake, leave them alone and just let them trot home to their mommies.

12. Self-love: if you don’t have it, pull yourself off the market. Make no mistake about it, if you don’t love yourself, NO MAN can ever love you… no matter how great a man he is.

13. Don’t judge ALL men by one man’s actions; unless you want ALL men to judge you based on the acts of amoral women.

14. Most women learn how to choose a mate the hard way; they go through a gut wrenching string of emotionally detached males, jerks, pimps, thugs and players. Don’t become one of those heart broken and bitter women! Learn how to properly choose a mate before it’s too late! The woman in the mirror will graciously thank you.

15. You wondering, “If I move in with him, is he going to marry me?” Answer: “Not likely!” Don’t believe it, take these two critical tests: (a). Ask any honorable man! And, (b). Examine the ever-growing list of disillusioned women who are begrudgingly waiting for their non-committal live-in lovers to pop the big question.

16. Do you keep attracting men who are dogs? Check the scent you’re putting out. Men who are dogs are attracted by scent!

17. You are not a man! Therefore, you will never be: a role model for men, a father figure, a man’s mentor or a man’s coach. If a man has lacked proper male leadership in his life, kindly send him on his way. Know for a certainty; he is not prepared for the responsibilities that come with love, sex, relationship and marriage.

18. If you don’t know what a misogynistic man is, take this time to check your dictionary. For your sake, sanity and safety, avoid these treacherous males at all costs.

19. Don’t ever delude yourself! Your beauty, fine body, sexual prowess, cooking skills, femininity and vibrant personality will never be enough to change a man, NEVER!

20. If your potential mate does such things as: promises to call you but doesn’t, makes dates and breaks them, shows up late or plays games with your emotions; take notes ladies... those are clear cut warning signs that he DOES NOT value you, he DOES NOT love you and he DOES NOT care about you!

21. Angry, bitter, hostile, combative, unforgiving single women, become: angry, bitter, hostile and combative, unforgiving wives.

22. A fundamental understanding and respect of the male ego is a must for all women who want a vibrant and healthy love; DO NOT obtain this crucial information from dishonorable males or from angry bitter women.

23. If you choose to be with dishonorable males, pimps, players, thugs, ballers and shot callers, you have absolutely no right to complain when they torch your emotions, abuse you, leave you pregnant and alone, jeopardize your safety and otherwise harm or hurt you. Remember, you have freedom of choice and you chose to be with them!

24. When a man is trying to find himself, kindly bid him adieu… PERMANENTLY! He can find you, but can’t find himself? He shouldn’t be looking for love… he should be searching for the map to Mastering Manhood!

25. OK; he wants or is demanding sex but you are not his wife. Write this down: There is no need to wonder, debate or contemplate: he DOES NOT honor or respect you!

26. Spoiled women are like spoiled milk, spoiled meat, spoiled fruit spoiled bread and spoiled brats. Get the picture? Don’t become a spoiled woman!

27. Expecting a dishonorable male to do the honorable thing is like expecting piranhas not to devour you if you make the mistake of diving into their water.

28. You’ve asked these questions, “Why doesn’t he call me more often? Why doesn’t he pursue me more diligently and why doesn’t he show me that he loves me?” Answer; he’s not into you! If you don’t let him go and move on with your life, you will allow him to hinder or block your true love from finding you!

29. All men ARE NOT dogs! Don’t believe, repeat or perpetuate that rampant lie! You will hamper your ability to see and discern the good men who cross your path!

30. Some males like to hit women. It gives them a sense of power and control. If you give yourself to one of these abusive males, most assuredly you will become a punching bag and a floor mat. It is critical that you learn how to detect and avoid these cretins!

31. Promiscuous immoral women are not worthy of an honorable man. They never have been and they never will be.

32. Never allow emotionally embittered women to influence you concerning the male gender. If you do, their hatred and unforgiveness will become yours. Soon you will find yourself suspicious, indignant and angry at all men.

33. You were not designed, built or destined for abuse, whether: emotionally, physically or financially. If he is an abuser, there is no need to deliberate… he IS NOT the one; leave him now!

34. Some women live their lives vicariously through the women on “Girlfriends, Sex In The City and Desperate Housewives.” Don’t become one of these women. If you do, you will make a literal mess of your life, emotions, physical body and well-being.

35. When a man truly loves you, he will honor and respect you. If he doesn't… don’t deceive yourself and don’t allow him to defraud you; he DOES NOT love OR care about you!

36. Everyone has skeletons in their closet? Wrong! Not everyone has skeletons in their closet. Don’t start putting any in yours!

37. There is a vast difference between sex and love. Most men know the difference and you had better learn it fast! If you fail or refuse to do so, you are surely headed for relationship or marital crash and burn.

38. Don’t deceive yourself, once you have sex with a man who is not your husband… he may never admit it, but he has lost a degree of respect for you. Don’t believe it? Ask any honorable man or virtuous woman.

39. The dismal cycle of breaking up and making up only works out in the romance novels, television shows and movies. If you are riding that emotional roller coaster get off right now! Your heart, mind and soul will forever thank you.

40. Nothing is more beautiful, captivating, attractive and sensual than a woman with a gentle and peaceable spirit!

Full Circle

2009-08-09T18:12:00.000-04:00

Full circle

Angry/pissed/disturbed/displaced/confused/hurt/pained/belligerent/disrespected/disowned/put aside/left alone/passed over/empty/cryed out/lonely/left questioning/hopeful/hopeless/pitiful/sorry/useless/unqualified/lost/left out/belittled/betrayed/inexperienced/self doubting/overlooked/undeserved/sad/available/purposeless/misguided/mistaken/second best/easily let go/weak/powerless/unneccessary/wishing/wanting/tapped out/spiritless/broken/rundown/un/not/without definition/forgotten/needing/looking/ready/able/willing/struggling/trying/maintaining?/crying out/unfocused/unmotivated/passive/Taken Advantage.Of./#1 to no one/wondering/undone/passionate/passionless/discovering/uncovering/looking on/looking in/moving forward/standing still/stagnate/searching/breathing/crying/sighing/blocking the blessing/trying to find me/lost in everyone else/trying to shake the past/having a hard time/wanting/needing to move on/don’t know how/cant let go/easy way out/want to speak up/scared to hurt/always hurting/never doing the hurt/questioning my purpose/cant find the answers/don’t know who to ask/ask everyone/except for myself/ already know the answer/fear/trapped inside my fears/scared to be me/scared to embrace who I am/ scared that being me might not be enough/scared that being me might be too much/ trying to undertand/giving up/fighting for the wrong things/what are the right things/which battle needs to be fought/self uplift/questioning who I am/questioning my purpose/needing more/accepting less/needing love/accepting lust/needing trust/accepting betrayal/needing change/accepting/giving my all/losing my all/asking for guidance/asking for support/asking for direction/asking/receiving/wanting/getting/losing/finding/questioning/answering/fighting/winning

MissDMW

So I write...sometimes

2009-08-09T17:58:00.002-04:00

I want a...

I want a soul stirring love
A climb inside and stay a while love
A baited breath, deep stare kinda love
A love that makes you smile at the mere thought of it
The kind that makes you wanna dance
The kinda love that feels so good it hurts
The kinda love that lives in my dreams. The ones I don't want to wake up from
A love that makes you glow
That "ooo girl, who is he?" kinda love
A love my parent's parent's parents shared
The kind you see in movies
The kind you find in your favorite song
A love that makes you wanna write
One that breeds metaphors and similes and hyperboles and...
That silly, touchy feely kinda love
That up all night "I'm sleepy but I aint sleep" kinda love
That "you had me at hello" kinda love
That "I don't wanna keep you no company, I just wanna see you" kinda love
A kinda love that's worth fighting for
Hell, the kinda love that I'll fight YOU for
That tell all your girls kinda love
That act hard around your boys kinda love
That handcuffing in the club kinda love
That "come here gurl" kinda love
That make it work kinda love
A kinda love that doesn't make sense because love doesn't have to
That sit by the phone waiting on your call kinda love
That listen to all your voicemails and reread all your texts kinda love
That get dolled up kinda love
A kinda love that makes your heart smile
A kinda love that words cannot express
The kind of love you would listen to on repeat
The kinda love that's worth a do over
That Cliff/Claire, Will/Jada, Barack/Michelle kinda love
That "sweetest thing I've ever known" kinda love
That fairy tale kinda love...

MissDMW

7 H's to Recovering after you Stumble...

2009-06-08T16:22:00.002-04:00

My Pastor shared 7 H's to use to recover when you have failed at something. These steps are supported by Psalms 51.

Verse :1 Humble yourself
Verse :6 Hear- be open to the word and advice from the people who love you
Verse :3 Honest-acknowledge the role you played in the failure. You can't blame everyone else and never take responsibility
Verse :17 Hurt-take time to be hurt.
Verse :10 Hurry to correction. Work quickly to get back up
Verse :11 be Hungry. You have to WANT change.
Verse :12 be Happy. Once youhave picked yourself up and dusted yourself off, be happy that you have another chance.

Randoms...

2009-05-07T15:06:00.006-04:00

1. I am composing theses random things after reading someone else's...I dug it, so I'm doing it.

2.I am doing this from my phone. Which I will then beam to my laptop. Not because I'm a nerd, but because I like tech toys.

3. Contrary to popular happenings, I PREFER human interaction to text, email, social networking etc...when did we stop talking to people face to face anyway??

4. No disrespect to all the Ashinkashanks of the world, but I appreciate the fact that my name is simple and can be pronounced by anyone who speaks the King's English.

5. *ahem* My name is Dawn M. Wilson, and I am an E-stalker. {bows head in shame} lol

6. I have used my middle initial since the 7th grade because there was another Dawn Wilson who was not as intellectually inclined as I and almost had me in summer school in her place. Oddly enough, her middle initial is M too.

7. LOL is way overused. I think its time we replace it.

8. I am a word enthusiast. I get Webster's & Merriam's word of the day just so I can work a new word into my lexicon.

9. I'm a voracious reader. Mostly fiction but I dabble in a little of everything because I like to know stuff.

10. When I was little, people used to ask me what I wanted to do when I got older and I would reply "I wanna know everything." Not omnipotent like God, but that there wouldn't be a question that I couldn't answer. Of course, I don't know everything, but what I do know, I know unequivocally.

11. Confidence not bravado, is sexy to me in a man. I am attracted to intelligent men with street and business acumen. I love nice strong arms, beautiful smile, amazing conversation and a dude that can make me laugh out loud, literally.

12. I love to laugh. A good belly laugh, a quiet chuckle, something that brings tears to my eyes etc...Most people make smile, but not many can make me laugh.

13. Since I love to laugh I got jokes for days!

14. Upon first impression most people think one of two things about me a) I am evil or b) I am goofy/silly as ever. I'm actually one of the coolest people you may never really know-giving, fun, honest, lovable, loyal, true to myself, tough on the outside, but really a big softie

15. I LOVE SNEAKERS!! Like, I really do. If it was acceptable, I would walk around nekkid with a hot pair of kicks on. So sincere, so sincere

16. Two big dreams that I hope to accomplish are
1) to open my retail sneaker chain. Boutique style with all the hotness.
2) Use some of the profits to fund my non-profit for young women to provide uplift, mentors, and support. While I do believe that there are more positive role models for young women than men, these young girls are so lost and don't know their true worth. There is a wealth of untapped potential in our young people, all they need is a lot of love and a little support.

17. I used to speed. Not like a few miles over the limit, but 40+ miles over the limit. I got 7 points, I slowed down. But I still get excited when I see somebody fly past me on the Turnpike or the Parkway(<----IM SO NEW JERSEY!!!!!) and live vicariously through them. Until they get pulled over.

18. I am writing my first novel. It is a work of fiction. My second book, will be based on uplift and empowerment.

19. I am really big on semantics. Spelling, grammar, speech, word order, words in context, punctuation, your vs. you're, there vs. their, here vs. hear etc...even in emails and text messages...I can't help it.

20. I often over-think things. It is an unhealthy habit that I am working on that makes me seem defensive, when in actuality, it is my attempt at being a step ahead of everyone all the time.

21. I enjoy quotes. I save all the really good ones in a note on my phone. I even make it a point to update the quote in my email signature, too. Currently it is "No matter the accomplishments you make, somebody helps you."-Althea Gibson

22. I am the youngest of 5. But, at times, I feel burdened by being the most "accomplished" child.

23. I wish I had a wicked British accent. At work, when I'm bored, I practice.

24. The number one place on my travel list is Greece. Then Cairo.

25. Sometimes I purposely don't immediately respond to texts and calls. We should all learn to respect other's time and remember what is was like when everyone wasn't so accessible.

26. I am pretty random at times. But I often drop gems of wisdom. (that comes from all that extra thinking :)

27. The Boondocks had it right: Chicks really do like smiley faces =)

28. I enjoy(or would enjoy if I had one) catering to my man. No, not everyone deserves it. No, I will not bow at your feet. Yes, I will make your plates and serve you. Yes, all the things you need to be comfortable in my home will be there. Yes, you can watch the game in peace. When I ask what you did today, I am not trying to catch you out there, I am really interested in how your day went.

29. Sometimes, I just want be in a man's space. We don't need to have special plans or be hooking up. Being together is enough.

30. I have an alter ego that wears her fitted real low or tipped atop her head. She’s a real jordans and jeans kinda girl, talks real slick, drives real fast, and lights the fire in me. She walks to a beat that no one else can hear. She is smart, respected, admired, and often emulated. She has a quiet confidence that people notice and commands attention. She is the light you see in my eyes, the pep in my step, and the driving force in my actions. She is Sassy McSassington. (YEAH, I got that name from someone else, but its oh so perfect, so I stole it!)

31. Number 31 was intentionally left blank.

32. No, it's not you, it's me. But that's still annoying, so could ya knock it off?

33. I don't understand society/government's need to categorize and label things-ethnicity, religious/political affiliation, age, gender, occupation, intended major, salary etc. I am more than check boxes can define and feel that when given a label, we (ourselves) give them (the man and 'em) the tools to judge us. More often than not, you begin to limit yourself to how others define you.

34. I voted for the first time this November. I voted for Obama.

35. In light of recent domestic beatdowns in the R&B world, I feel obligated to share my stance on men and women putting hands on each other... 1. Fellas-I do not feel that, under any circumstance, you should put your hands on a woman. If I have boys, I will raise them to understand their strength and power. I will teach them to protect themselves and to know when to walk away, or call one of their girl cousins (ha! Just jokes) 2. Ladies- If your sass is on level 10, and you get besides yourself and mush the manhood out of a dude, don't be surprised if he shakes the drool out your mouth! I have personally witnessed a female thinking a dude would let it slide if she punched him in the head. I also witnessed that same dude haul off and smack the color out of her face. No, it wasn't funny. That was my homegirl, but because I have SEENT it with my own eyes, pointing really annoyingly close to a dude's face is the closest I will get to putting my hands on a dude.

36. I don't like listening to unfamiliar music at high volumes. It makes me edgy. I need the chance to listen and appreciate the song for its musicality and lyrics.

37. KNOWsy people get it too.

38. I am inspired by anyone I know or meet actively going after their dreams. It takes much tenacity, hard work, and humility to do great things. So if I know you, or meet you, and respect your hustle-music, dance, writing, acting, entreprenuer, whatever- I will support in any way I can.

39. I am an indentured servant.

40. I sleep with the window cracked all year, whether heat or AC. It may be a mental thing, but I don't sleep well if it is not open.

41. Snack drawers at other people's houses are ALWAYS better than your own. Always.

42. Speaking of snacks and hook-ups-hood people put some of the weirdest stuff together-tuna & ramen noodles, ketchup/hot sauce & potato chips, bologna & heat, potato chips &/or ice cream/cookies, peanuts & cola, beef patties & cheese etc. Some of that stuff be ROCKIN!

43. Speaking of hood people- what is with minorities and condiments?? And modifying the menu?? "Can I get a chicken sandwich wit big mac sauce?" "Lemme get 50 packs of ketchup/hot sauce/duck sauce?" "Can I get those fried hard?"

44. Speaking of condiments-what part of the game is mickey d's and BK charging for extra? When I don't ask for ketchup you give me 50 leven of 'em. When I request sweet & sour sauce for my chicken sandwich, I have to pay for it? I don't get it.

45. No, Mr. Crackhead, I don't have three dimes. I will, however, get you something to eat if that's where that three dimes would have gotten you.

46. Not having a home to go to during my first year of college affected me in ways that I am just beginning to understand. Their divorce was for the best, but my sister and I caught the jack on that one.

47. I am intrigued/fascinated by street life. No, I don't plan to become a skripper or date a drug dealer (ok, I admit that I thought about the whole drug dealer thing but ruled it out when I weighed the cons AND cons. It would have been a purely financial come up) But if the people who ran the streets put as much effort into something positive, they could be respectable businessmen and women.

48. Since when did it become commonplace to ask someone how many children they had? Or even better-do you have children? I mean really. This dude asked me “how many kids you got?” I chuckled at him and said “errr, none”. He laughed like that was unusual. Maybe because he had 5. {shrug}

49. IM SO NEW JERSEY. So, no matter where I am in the world, the following will always be familiar: -club music!!!! -chicken shacks/Ferraro’s in Plainfield -Parkway, Turnpike, Rt 22, and Rt 1&9

50. I purposely use grammatically incorrect words or phrases for emphasis.

51. I have this love/hate relationship with going to the gym…right now, we are beefing.

52. Reality TV is so addictive. Love it.

53. I changed my major in college because I failed anatomy & physiology. twice.

54. If you're gonna pray, don't worry; if you're gonna worry, don't pray.

55. I drove without a radio in my car from July 2007 until October 2008. One late night in Newark( DONT ASK!) some IDIOT broke into my car and stole my radio face. Yes, just the face. Jerk broke my driver's side window too.

56. I have worked two jobs since I was 16.

57. I have been officially fired from two jobs. That was two of the saddest periods in my life.

58. My hair has been natural since 2004. I will probably never perm again.

59. I stopped eating pork in '01. I'm taking itsy-bitsy baby steps, but beef is on its way out too.

60. I, think, I, overuse, commas.

61. I often wonder why the word IRREGARDLESS exists. Think about it...

62. Dear Mother Nature, I was born in November. The 9th to be exact. Me and the heat are not cool. <-------pun intended

63. Enjoys social research, which is why I ask some of the most random questions in my statuses. I like to know other people's perspective on things.

64. I will keep adding random thoughts until I break 100. and then I'll just keep going.

65. I started taken pictures of myself because I would hate for, when I get older, to not have any memories of my youth.

66. I don't want to get old. I know I can't help it or stop it from happening, but I would like to stop aging at 36. Give or take 4 years.

67. I have "Who does that?"/"Who says that?" moments all the time. I think it's because my friends are a bunch of crazies...

68. Your dreams and God's purpose for your life, should be one and the same. Stop fighting for things that are not meant for you...

69. When was the last time you assessed the people in your life? I'm not trying to get people to cut off all their friends and make new ones but sometimes the nonsense you are involved in is a direct relation to who you are involved with...I'm just saying...

70. I have two major fears. No, I'm not telling.

71. Oprah just bought the entire country a two-piece dinner from KFC...smh, please refer to #67

72. I have been saved and joined a church. While I am not yet fully versed in the Bible, I know two things: 1) Prayer works and 2) My God can never lose.

73. I HAD a potty mouth. Operative word-HAD. I know far too many words to use ones that make you cringe. I'm not saying I don't slip, but I'm definitely working on it.

74. What is everyone's fascination and adoration with the club? I don't get it: You go to the mall and spend money that you probably don't have on an outfit that you really don't like to drink drinks that don't taste good to be lose control of your faculties to converse with cornballs about nothingness and dance to THEE wackest music. And then you go home. Or at least that is my take on it :l

75. Being able to nod and smile is a skill we should ALL embrace because speaking out true thoughts would be counterproductive.

76. The internet is the greatest place on earth.

77. If you don't change directions, then you might end up where you're going-Taoism<--------The most recent quote to make me go hmmmmmmmmm

78. Twitter and facebook are something like the devil...I'm just sayin...

79. My Daddy taught me that "Your word is your bond." I truly believe this because "actions can't speak louder than words" if no words are spoken. If I say something, then my actions will be congruent with that. So words, to me, are a predictor to your actions.

80. Fellas, skinny jeans are not a go! So, stop it.

81. Ladies, be honest with yourself when getting dressed. You KNOW that didn't look good BEFORE you left the house...

82. Contrary to popular belief, it's still tricking EVEN if you have it. Ex-T-Pain's BIG A** CHAIN

83. I want to further discuss this chain: Just because you can afford to do something, does that make it okay? That chain could have sent 4 children to Ivy League schools or 10 children to local colleges and universities. There are families who live on less then 25, 000 a year and to spend $410,000 on a chain that is ignorant and classless is just silly, reckless, and wasteful. These are the kinds of things that make the others look at us like this ---> :/

84. Yes, our President is Black. That is not a pass for you to forget that work-in your home, life, family , community-needs to be done. Wait, did you even vote?

85. Read a book. You might learn something.

86. My Mom used to tell me that if I kept eating sunflower seeds one would grow in my stomach. She said the samething about swallowing watermelon seeds. I used to have the most irrational fear about this. Thanks Mom!

87. I like my bananas just past green and will not eat them with brown on the peel. And I won't eat it if I have to touch it with my hands. I hate having stuff on my hands...

88. Why do people talk to you when you're A) on the phone 2) reading and Q) sleeping? Setup for failure if you ask me...

89. They (whoever that is) say that people can learn one of two ways 1) aurally or 2) visually. I am definitely a visual learner. I REAALLLLY have to focus to ignore all the visual stimuli if I'm supposed to be listening to something. This is also known as ADD. HA!

90. An ellipsis (...) is used to indicate a pause in speech, an unfinished thought or, at the end of a sentence, a trailing off into silence. Ellipses have THREE dots. Not two, four, or seven. Thank You.

Uplift and all that...

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I think that I will use this post as my uplift and motivation board. I will add as I see fit the many things that I come across or that I personally think of, that may push you forward. Often we know something that can make someone's day exponentially greater and fail to share those things. Knowledge, motivation, positivity, and inspiration are things that we should give freely. I, mean, why not? It's FREE!!!

Your dreams and God's purpose for your life, should be one and the same. Stop fighting for things that are not meant for you...DMW
"No matter what accomplishments you make, somebody helps you" Althea Gibson
Love should not hurt.
"Love is not an emotion nor is it a feeling. It's a choice. It's centered in the will. It's a decision and a commitment to that decision. Lust is the desire to please yourself at the expense of someone else. Love is the desire to please someone else at the expense of yourself. Love is a choice, a decision, a desire to give..."-Kel Spencer www.myspace.com/KelSpencer
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” Marianne Williamson
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit-Aristotle
The best way out is always through-Robert Frost
The best way to find yourself, is to lose yourself in the service of others-Ghandi
You have not lived until you have done something for someone who can never repay you
No two things can occupy the same space at the same time. You must SACRIFICE something to make room for better things...
You can't expect change, if you're not willing to make any-DMW
If you do not change directions, you might end up where you're headed-Taoism
Real optimism is being aware of problems but recognizing solutions, knowing about difficulties but believing they can be overcome, seeing the negatives but accentuating the positives, being exposed to the worst but expecting the best, having a reason to complain but choosing to smile." ~William Arthur Ward
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit. Aristotle

Should I Go In????

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Since this is my first blog, I'll refrain from going in. I'll just take this time to introduce myself, my beliefs, my moniker, and my purpose to the e-world.

Anyone can blog and I am no different. My opinion is just that, MINE. You don't have to agree but I do enjoy the feedback. With the use of popular social networking sites we ||e-goers|| have been given the opportunity to express ourselves in a way our parents and grandparents never thought of. Who would ever think that we would do the majority of our communicating without even having to open our mouths? With just a few clicks of the mouse, presses of fingertips to keyboard, copy and paste and VOILA! We have just shared our innermost secrets and thoughts with the entire free world. LOL. Most of us have our own particular e-vice-Facebook , Myspace , Twitter , Tagged ,BlackPlanet (really?) etc. But many of us spread our time equally amonst many sites. These sites have given us a personal soapbox to stand on. And, dammit, I have something to say too =)

I will use this blog to share some of my random thoughts, some of which I am sure you may nod your head to. Some of which you may vehemently disagree. Good, bad or indifferent you will feel something. I will attempt to evoke some sort of emotion from you. I may even intentionally push your buttons. I just want people to think differently, not necessarily like me, but out of the conventional box they normally operate in.

I have layers. Some soft and pink, like your average girly girl. Most a little more rough around the edges, saying things that you may not want to hear/read. And you don’t have to. This is MY blog. HEHEHEHHEHEHEH….

I have created little blurbs about myself for different notes and sites and below you find the compilation of those, for you to learn more about me.

About Me

I have an alter ego that wears her fitted real low or tipped atop her head. She’s a real jordans and jeans kinda girl, talks real slick, drives real fast, and lights the fire in me. She walks to a beat that no one else can hear. She is smart, respected, admired, and often emulated. She has a quiet confidence that people notice and commands attention. She is the light you see in my eyes, the pep in my step, and the driving force in my actions. She is Sassy McSassington . She is me and I am her. (YEAH, I got that name from someone else, but its oh so perfect, so I stole it!)

Music: I have an eclectic taste in music...I will listen to anything once but I need a chance to absorb i

Movies: I love movies! Especially corny coming of age teen movies...lol. But I watch serious ones too! :)
TV: I can watch reality tv and music videos all damn day...DONT JUDGE ME! lol

Books: Im an avid reader, mostly because I love words. The more words I learn, the easier I can verbally assassinate someone ;)

Interests: I just started learning chess...every Friday night I hang out with the oldies at the Y for a few...sounds corny but they BE knowing stuff!! ha!

Dreams: To live life how it exists in my dreams...

About Me: I'm so random, but within the random ramblings you'll find gems of wisdom. I listen as much, if not more, than I talk. I'm not your average chick, because there is nothing about me that is average/mediocre/just cutting it. Don't try, DO. Easily amused but rarely impressed. I love who I was, who I am, and who I am becoming. I KNOW there is a God, because I am far to blessed too believe otherwise.

I am a college educated, funny-often sarcastic, woman who is very involved with my sorority and will give her last to her friends and family. I am open to a lot of different things ( I do have boundaries! lol) and enjoy being out and about as much as chilling in the house, cooking dinner and watching a movie. I am a no-nonsense kind of gal, I say what I mean and mean what I say. I have no time for dishonesty and games because life is just too short to waste time on people who don’t have your best interests at heart. I play hard, but work harder. I have no interest in what a person can do for me, because I don’t expect anyone to do anything for me that I wouldn’t/couldn’t do for myself. I am a sneaker head and have plans to open my own sneaker chain in the future. Sneakers are a passion of mine and I often see people from the feet up and not the other way around-I know, Im kind of a fanatic *smile*. I am old-fashioned in the sense that I like a man to do “man” things-take out the trash, hold doors, help me out of the car, let his woman “cater to him”…